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January 2nd

If God is such a powerful and loving God, why does he let innocent, defenseless children be born to or be adopted by abusive parents?

Jon: “Man and woman were created in the image and likeness of God (Gen. 1:26) with freedom of the will. Although God didn’t want them to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, he did not restrict their freedom to do so. If God were to force people’s actions, their coming to him would not be genuine. We take comfort knowing that God is just: ‘For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done’ (Col. 3:25).”

Anna: “Human beings are imperfect and through choice have been exposed to both good and evil, which breeds psychological confusion, ambivalence, and dysfunction. When dysfunctional behavioral patterns are entrenched within a family’s dynamics, wrongdoing and suffering are inevitable. Unfortunately, children are susceptible to the decisions of adults and are not exempt from experiencing delinquency or abuse. What children are absolved from, due to a limited capacity of awareness and accountability, is eternal wrath and judgment. Ultimately, God will have the final authority on those who have abused others. He does not routinely intervene to establish his recipe for grace, redemption, and to demonstrate the power that genuine faith and belief in his Son provides. God is without a doubt loving and just.”

January 11th

We anticipate the day our souls—our minds, bodies, emotions—are healed. Can music help to restore us in these areas?

Jon: “Steadfastness of heart, pleasure, joy, and gratitude are just some positive states of being connected with making music unto God (Ps. 57:7, 135:3, 71:23; Col. 3:16). In Scripture, the goal of music is not personal gain, but to worship and give praise to the Lord. Positive personal improvement is merely a byproduct of God-focused musical endeavors. If we ever feel we have no reason to sing, we can remember we have been eternally saved through Christ Jesus. We then have an eternal reason to sing and make joyful noise.”

Anna: “When music edifies one’s mind and spirit, it has the ability to be deeply uplifting, remedial, and transformative. It translates through melodies and lyrics a message that stokes, nurtures, awakens, and brings forth animation to one’s emotions and existence. Pleasant sounds and intricate harmonies soothe the soul, ignite the senses, and tell a story. Music heals on psychological and physiological levels because it incites congruence within one’s cells and being, and enables personal association and emotional expression. Life can be hard, human behavior is often hurtful, circumstances can be abusive and unfair, and music creates a grieving highway towards emotional release and healthy escape. Humankind was created to trust, depend upon, and worship God. When praising Jesus through song, one will experience a marvelous restoration process through honoring, adorating, and glorifying God.”

March 18th

Many of us have been beaten down so badly that we are constantly fearful. How can we learn to be courageous in this life?

Jon: “When two people fall in love, they often become so infatuated with each other that they lose awareness of the world around them. Unaware of the world, nothing in the world could cause them to fear. The Bible has always affirmed this principle: ‘There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear’ (1 John 4:18). Passionately expressing and cultivating an infatuating love for God—who already loves us perfectly—will render the world utterly incapable of causing us fear.”

Anna: “When abused and faced with threats, fear can pervade. For self-protection, one will either override their fears to oppose evil or retreat. Either way, boldly acting does not mean one is completely fearless. Oftentimes, overcoming apprehensions is a process for abolishing one’s prior belief systems and understanding one’s limitations. When alarmed, one’s anxiety increases, and may cause intense panic or an extreme emotional response. When one comes to awareness and determines that fear can be overridden by something more meaningful, courage is born. To have been beaten down throughout childhood and have the desire and ability to continue on and persevere, one is brave. To choose to do what is right without the intention of acknowledgment will be consequentially rewarded by God in this life or the next.